It’s been a little while since I’ve been here–and not because I’ve been without thoughts. Quite the contrary. I just can’t stop long enough to think about just one thing. This could go many directions. Let’s see where it takes me.
One of the things I often read in many books about Mother Teresa was that whoever she’d meet, she tried to make them a better version of themselves. If they were Hindu, she tried to make them a better Hindu. If they were Muslim, she tried to make them a better Muslim, etc.
For such a devout woman of faith–a Christian faith–this seems to be opposite of what many would preach, the opposite of the agenda.
Most people who believe in a specific religion believe theirs is the right one, the only one, the one that determines the fate of the afterlife. I cannot speak for other religions, but in Christian churches, this couldn’t be truer. I grew up in a Methodist church in my neighborhood, and throughout the years, the message was the same: accept Jesus, love your neighbors as yourself, tell others of their need of Jesus as their savior, and try to get as many people in church as possible. There was never any discussion or training on how to communicate with others who may not believe what you do, who question the existence of any possible deity, or were as different from you as could be. There was never the emphasis on loving THOSE neighbors. There wasn’t emphasis on loving anyone else or consciously doing the work true Christianity requires. It was always presented like this: everyone else is lost, and it’s our job to bring them to the truth to be found. And have nothing to do with them if they reject it. Man-made religion, full of agendas, totally misses the point. And as always, Mother Teresa had it right.
I am a Christian. I have been since I was a child. And I grew up (by choice) in church. But I always questioned the ideas behind evangelism–especially when the most important commandment is to love your neighbor.
It’s easy to love others you can relate to. It’s even easier to love others with whom you have much in common or share a religion or faith. “If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? And if you greet only your own people, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that? Be perfect as your Heavenly Father is perfect.” (Matthew 5:46-48) We are quick to forget to love our neighbors.
One of the reasons Christians treat others this way is out of fear. They do not talk to people with other beliefs because they are not fully equipped to participate in the conversation. They don’t know their own beliefs well enough to share them. Many just go to church, read the Scriptures the pastor says to read, interpret them the way they are told, then go back to their lazy lives the other six days of the week. Love is lost. Ignorance continues. And people turn back into themselves by Monday morning. They don’t know how to properly love because they haven’t been shown. They’re just told to push the agenda, all the while forgetting that Jesus is love, and love is the greatest of the commandments.
Christians are also so focused on the message of a need for a Savior that they skip love and go straight to the idea of Hell for all eternity. I don’t know about you, but I’ve never met a stranger who responds warmly to this message. I know I don’t. Speaking of being approached by a stranger…
I once had an old high school classmate, who I hadn’t seen in 20 years, approach me at a Walmart, telling me I am a sinner who needs saved, and he would like for me to visit his church. He had no idea I am the American Mary Poppins: Practically Perfect in Every Way. lol. Seriously. He didn’t ask me how I am doing. He didn’t show much kindness or any godly love. He didn’t know my beliefs or ask me anything about myself. He made assumptions, quick judgments, and continued his speech just to hear himself talk. I didn’t care that he was some sort of pastor now. I didn’t give a rat’s ass that he preaches at a church or actually went to seminary. He was very arrogant. And little did he know…I could give him a run for his money on Biblical knowledge. But I had nothing to prove. He certainly did.
He has an older brother who is gay, and he disowned him for it, and for that I had already made up my mind about him. He didn’t know his Bible that well if he had room to hate. You can’t expect to be taken seriously if you are talking out of both sides of your face. And if you are a pastor, you will be judged more strictly.
I’ve always said that I will not tell you why you should believe in God. I will simply tell you why I do. And I could tell you some wild stories that would cause you to question it if you don’t already believe. To God be the glory! Back to Mother Teresa
Every person Mother Teresa met, she treated them with respect. And those she helped along the way, she showed them the love of God and helped them to pass with dignity, knowing someone cared for them in their final hours. Love: the greatest commandment. She never stopped to decide if they were worthy. She never questioned what they believed before she served. She simply loved them. And she tried to help them become the best versions of themselves–even those who were at the ends of their lives. No strings. She simply loved.
Those are the actions of a true believer of Christ. Those are the actions of a humble person who may be very devout but also secure enough to not feel threatened by any other ideas. Those are the actions of a true servant, one I very much admire. We could all be more like this.
I’ve heard it said, we should leave the Earth better than when we found it. The same is true of others. We should leave them better than when we found them. That is a life-long challenge.
May God show us how to love ourselves so we may love others. May God humble us enough to love others without deciding whether they are worthy. May God bring our impurities to light and show us mercy as we navigate our way through all that separates us. May God give us all the wisdom to show without tell, love more in action, and leave others better than when we found them. Amen.